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Don't get the Divorce!

Week Twelve: Divorce, Split-families, and Remarriage      This week was all on divorce, remarriage, and blending families. I was glad to look into the text on what is recommended for making the best out of a divorce or a split family situation, but instead I found a lot of evidence that reconfirms just how hard it can be. Of course, people are making it in families where there are some un-traditional family structures, I mean look at how many children are born into a family without a father, but that’s not ideal.      I’m speaking from experience here when I say there are other ways to get around a potential divorce or split. My parents divorced when I was only two and I was toted around as a little kid on dates as my father and mother began searching for a spouse. As an adult I’ve asked my parents and their spouses how dating went between them and they almost always bring up the fact that I was around as a little kid made the new marriage decision easier and more meaningfu
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Democracy in the Home

Week Eleven: Parenting This week we met as a class online for our lessons and discussions, it was different, but I still felt engaged and got so much out of it! I really liked the topics we discussed too even though I have never parented someone before I felt like there was some useful substance that I can pull from so one day when I am a father, I can do a good job raising them. I even learned a little more about myself and my own upbringing. I think the lessons shed some light on the way I am the way I am, and why my parents did what they did. I think I found some good examples in their parenting, and I also found some poor spots that may have caused harm. But that’s the great part about learning from other people’s efforts! You can take the best that they had and add upon it to make your own amazing way of going about life.  To kick this blog off I want talk about an amazing finding that was introduced to me. A man named Michael Popkin came up with his own definition of w
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The Right Fatherly Goals

Week Ten: Fathers and Finance       You know, it’s an interesting experience when you go through situations and learn of their importance many years down the road. I learned things this week that really did surprise me and consider how I came out to be the adult that I am today. The principles that I learned are simple and vital to the health of families, but I feel like they are often the most ignored and disregarded family principles to date. Almost all forms of modern society really do trash on the traditional family structure and its roles, it’s almost impossible to argue otherwise, but sometimes those simple traditional ways are the best. This week I learned a lot about the role of the father in the home and his role to his wife and children. I learned a lot about some statistics surrounding the father and his position in today’s world. In a lot of ways, it is dismal, and people really don’t appreciate or understand the father role, but that is a sound reason for you and me t
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Communication is Everything

Week Nine: Communication tools are the best!      Communication: the key to success. T hat is success in relationships, which is overall the most valuable area to be successful in.      At the heart of every message conveyed, every close relationship, and every desire to communicate lies an unseen normalcy of communication that is as complex as it is beautiful. When everyone communicates, they use intricate ways of forming a message and use a tool or plethora of tools to convey their message over to a receiving party. These are considered different communication media. These could be texting, body language, talking, etc. After someone formulates the message that they desire to convey, they send it in the best way they can, and then it’s up to the receiving party to actually decode this message and respond in their own way. This is actually how all communication happens in all forms.      As this came to my mind, I’ve thought that it seems so inefficient and odd. Why were w
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Hard Times Happen

Week Eight: Family Under Stress, Crisis   This week I plan on writing this blog a little differently than I normally do. Instead of writing about what I learned and the concepts that were presented to me in class, I want to share some personal experiences that were in line with the things that we learned. This week we talked about stuff that was close to my heart and life, probably because unlike being married and dating regularly I’m used to dealing with family issues and crises and have learned to navigate them, with more finesse and strength than I used to.       I want to first point out that stress and some issues that arise in the family are usually a good thing and invite families to stretch and grow beyond their current circumstances. Without hard times families would never grow closer and overcome obstacles. But sometimes stressors can be so great that families can often strain and break under the pressure. These are events like death, divorce, unemployment.    
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Cleave Unto Your Spouse

Week Seven: Sexual Intimacy and Family Life       This week’s material was great and precious, but it didn’t pass my mind without flushing my face every once and a while; the topics are a little sensitive. In short, this week we talked all about the physical realm of intimacy within marriage, and the joys and stressors that could be involved there with. I hope that I can convey these topics that I found interesting in the most sensitive and pure way, as to not soil their amazing nature. I also wish to discuss a little on infidelity and remaining ‘true’ to our spouses.         To start off, I want to make a connection from a couple weeks ago regarding gender differences. We all have come to a common consensus that women and men are innately different and through their differences make a more perfect union. Well the same is true in the sexuality of both genders, they are both different! Both genders appreciate and love having close relationships and total fidelity with
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Doing Marriage Prep Right

Week Six: Transitions in Marriage       This week we learned about the transition into marriage and what we could expect when being newlyweds or approaching marriage. I can for sure tell you that I was out of my element and could not relate to a lot of the things being presented ( because I’m not married yet ) but I was engrossed and learned a lot of valuable things that can happen along with transitioning into a new marriage and you can bet that I’ll be paying very close attention to accomplishing these things as I prepare for my own marriage.        So, my teacher taught us in the beginning of our class that marriage is often like shooting off a cannon at the beginning, It’s an interesting analogy and in my mind it’s accurate. A lot of noise and drama, with often some smoke clearing after the ceremonies and formalities are finished. But there is more to the story. When a couple shoots off a new marriage it’s hard to change the results of where its pointing after it has gon
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